5 Ways to Create a More Peaceful Home

We all want to live in a peaceful home environment. After all, home is where we seek refuge from the world out there. Home is the place where family members come together to unwind, enjoy one another’s presence, and truly rest. It’s also the main place where creativity can be cultivated, family discipleship flourishes, and where we grow in our walk with Christ. I truly believe the heart of society starts in the home.

This is why the home environment is so important! It matters significantly. So how do we achieve a home that is peaceful? Here are 5 ways to create a more peaceful home.

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1. A peaceful home starts with the mother’s heart and attitude

This may not be what you’d expect to be #1 on this list, but it matters a great deal. It doesn’t matter how pretty and clean your home looks is if there is quarreling, impatience, and discontentment in Mom’s heart. Of course the father’s attitude matters significantly too. He is the head of the household and is ultimately responsible for what goes down in his home. But since this post is targeted specifically for women, I will speak to the wives. After all, we cannot control our husbands; we can only control ourselves! Also, many of us are stay at home moms and are the ones who are at home around the children the most, so in that sense it does have the greatest impact.

If you think about it, the mother sets the tone for the mood in the home. If she is huffing and puffing around the house or complaining, no one is going to feel peaceful. The children will likely mimic her behavior and her husband will not feel welcome when he comes home from work. But if the mother/wife is kind, patient, smiles, and has a warmth about her… everyone is more likely to feel at ease.

A peaceful heart comes from the Lord…

(p.s I know this can be hard. I am the first to say I have struggled with this MANY times, so don’t let guilt grip you! Let it drive you to the cross. If you struggle with this, confess your sin to the Lord and accept his abundant grace and forgiveness. Ask him to change you and have faith that he will do it! He literally redeems everything. That is good news for sinners like us!)

A peaceful heart comes from contentment, knowing God is in control, that He is with you, and working on your behalf. Jesus is the prince of peace! Lean on him. Ask God to help you have a peaceful & kind heart at the beginning of each day. This will have such a significant impact towards having a peaceful home.

2. Set peaceful standards for your children

This one kind of goes along with tip #1, but just as the mother’s attitude matters, so do the children’s. Make it your aim to teach your children how to be kind and peaceable with one another. One thing I learned from M. is for Mama over on Instagram is that she has a zero tolerance for sibling fighting and bickering. It’s simply not allowed! She has taught her kids to deal with disagreements biblically and civilly. This does take a lot of work and consistency! This also goes for complaining, whining, and just overall being unpleasant.

The goal is not to avoid conflict or not address feelings. Conflict is good and natural, but rather to address it in a way that does not result in yelling & fighting. If you can help teach your kids how to deal with conflict, it will tremendously help your home environment which benefits everyone.

(A quick note about toddler tantrums. This is a category all on its own, and these cannot entirely be avoided haha. BUT a mother’s loving response and discipline will still have such an effect on the overall environment, and her child.)

Also, are any of you just triggered by excessive noise? I want to give you permission right now that it’s okay if you don’t want to allow your kids to be super loud in the house all the time. It’s okay to set boundaries, encourage outside play, and require basic indoor manners lol. I mean, don’t get all upset about noise because that’s part of it, but also…. they aren’t zoo animals. You know what I mean!

3. Keep your home tidy and well-kept

Okay, now let’s talk about the ACTUAL house! I don’t know about you, but I cannot stand excessive clutter. I actually used to feel really guilty about this, that being in a messy house bothered me. Some people I truly think are more affected by this than others! But I finally accepted the fact that existing in a tidy/orderly environment was honestly just as important as getting good sleep and food to eat. It just really makes a huge difference. I could be totally sleep deprived, but if I walk in my living room and it’s tidy and put-together? I’m at ease.

So in order to have a peaceful home, make it tidy. Put some sort of routine in place where the main rooms are tidied and things are put back in their places on a regular basis. Get rid of clutter. You don’t have to have the latest upgrades, or the perfect home aesthetic to achieve this. A home that is tidy is beautiful and peaceful.

4. Create a cozy atmosphere for a peaceful home

This tip is like the icing on a cake. There are things you can do to create a cozy atmosphere that yields such a peaceful home environment. I actually think about this a lot when I think about the decor in our home. Words that come to mind when I think about the kind of environment I want my home to be are: cozy, warm, calm, inviting, clean, soft, beautiful, uplifting, comfortable.

When deciding what to put in my home, things I consider are texture, color, comfort, practicality & beauty. Something can be beautiful, but not practical. Some things are practical but not beautiful. I really try to choose things in our home that are both!

When it comes to color, I love to go for muted tones or pastel colors. I usually avoid anything too bright & bold. But that’s just my style! I do think though that softer colors lend themselves to a more peaceful, calm environment. Not only do I consider color with home decor, but really anything that enters our home! Like I’m trying to avoid the red plastic Micky Mouse sippy cup and I’ll rather go for the plain sage one because that’s going to be easier on the eyes when left out on the counter haha. You might think this is silly, but when you add ALL those things left out at once, it can suddenly look super overwhelming!

Something I’ve noticed…

Side note: One thing I noticed when watching the 2005 Pride and Prejudice movie (easily my fav movie of all time) is that the Bennet house was not always picked up perfectly and things were usually left out. But it still looked peaceful to me because the things that were left out were muted colored linens, bonnets with ribbon, pretty dishes… no sign of plastic and obnoxious looking items LOL. I just thought that was interesting! There’s something about modern American consumerism and the amount of cheap, non-beautiful things we bring home. I don’t think it always serves us!

Obviously we cannot pursue perfectionism here (especially if we have kids) but many times it just comes down to choosing the better option!

If you want something a little extra for some added warmth and coziness for your peaceful home, here’s a list of things I like to do depending on the season! Here are some ideas:

• Play relaxing/soft music
• Light candles
• Open the windows or blinds to let the sunshine in
• Utilize dimmed lighting at night
• Bring fresh flowers into your home
• Use (clean) scents to make your home smell nice
• Have cozy blankets accessible
• Cook comfort foods & fresh bread
• Fill your home with lots of beautiful books to read
• Serve warm beverages like tea & coffee (or iced drinks in summer!)

5. Create space for margin and slow down

One underrated way to have a more peaceful home is to put more margin into your life. Think about all the times you and your family members are rushed. Is it usually peaceful? Are attitudes usually in the right place when you’re frantically rushing out the door between activities? The thing is, a peaceful home environment often just comes from slowing down. We are not able to enjoy a peaceful home if we are never there or we’re constantly thinking about what’s coming next.

Also, when we are rushed… that’s usually when things come undone in the home. Things are out of place and items get left out because we are trying to get out the door on time. I know for me personally, all the make-up gets left out on the bathroom counter when I don’t allow myself enough time to get ready! Food gets left out in the kitchen if I don’t have time to clean up before we go. Even giving yourself more time between activities can help with this! You will feel less rushed and your house doesn’t have to get as messy.

Often a cozy and peaceful home environment involves doing meaningful things with people you love. Curl up on the couch and read a beautifully illustrated picture book to your little one. Grab a blanket and a cup of tea and wind down before bed. Imagine hubby coming home from work to a warm meal & a lighted candle on the kitchen table. All of these little things contribute to a peaceful home, and they typically don’t happen unless we slow down a little.

So there you have it! 5 ways to create a more peaceful home!

Do you have any tips of your own? Would love if you share them in the comments!

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Happy Homemaking!

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